This week's topic on Sweet Saturday is very interesting and I'll answer 2 out of 4 questions.
What are the things that you have learned in your marriage about communication?
I and my husband are still in the honeymoon stage for we're
only married for almost 4 months. But I could say that communication is really
a big part and an essential tool for a happy marriage. We may be beginning as a
married couple but being boyfriend/girlfriend for 6 years, we've learned a lot.
It gave us the time to know more about each other's likes and dislikes and MOST
of all is that, we learned to communicate through talking. It's very important
to us since we come from different race. (He's a Taiwanese and I, a Filipino)
And so, it's a must to tell each other our feelings and opinions.
When is the time when it's hard for you and your partner to
communicate?
I have a very funny story about this. There was a time when I had something that I wanted him to do. I wanted him to help me with cleaning the house. I was cleaning and he was just sitting in front of his laptop and surfing the net. All I thought that if I stopped talking, ignore him or just be cold, he'll get to realize what is it that he did wrong. The fact is, he noticed that. He was asking me, what's wrong. But clearly because I did not say anything in the first place, he really didn't know what was it that I get irritated about. And so, I was furious and angry and irritated that he didn't get it. I told him why. I told him that I was expecting that he would help me with little things at least when I'm cleaning and I don't like it that as if he doesn't care to help at all. That he doesn't have any initiative. He was saying sorry and all and was laughing because he said that I can call him snoopy (our term for stupid hihi to make it sound sweeter) that he didn't get it. And asked me that I'd tell him everything that I wanted him to do. He's like that. I realized that yeah, he's different and that I have to tell him literally the things I have in mind. He just needed to be asked or else he will not really do anything. It's funny but I'm thankful that he's willing to listen and cooperate with me with cleaning the house. I understood and that's what's working with us. *wink*
I love my husband so much and I'm very thankful that God gave me such a very wonderful person. We're a kind of couple who needs verbal communication a lot. Speaking out our minds to each other all the time is necessary in order to understand each other. He's 10 years older than me and I love how we always meet halfway with every issues and settle peacefully eventually.
He's a Methodist pastor by the way and I'm now helping him with church work every weekend. I'm blessed with the life that we have together and we owe everything to God.
i'm glad to hear that you and your hubby knows how important communication is in your relationship. despite the age gap and race. i also learned that men are not good in deciphering or guessing that's why it's best to be up front with our wants...ganyan din asawa ko, hehe :D
ReplyDeletetruly God is the one who binds our marriage :D
Really? I think most men are like this talaga. My husband always tell me that he depends on me so much now kaya he's lazy na most of the time. Haha. It's okay naman as long as he helps with his own little ways. Thanks for coming over Ms. Jona!
ReplyDeleteWow cograts ang sweet naman po. Dapat ganyan lagi po nagkakaintindihan.
ReplyDeleteAww. That's sweet. Good thing there's no cultural conflicts, since he's a Taiwanese and you're a Filipina. I agree that a very open communication will help you go through everything! :)
ReplyDeletevery well said and you have good points! thanks for sharing!
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The funny story sounds all familiar to me, parang kami din hubby ganyan sa umpisa. But eventually I learned that hubby is no fortune teller and its easier to just tell him exactly what you want him to do. Like Jona said they are not good with deciphering. Like our husbands hahahaha... High five tayong tatlo jan :)
ReplyDeleteNice reading your story...
ReplyDeleteAgree with others, we should speak up but not nagging :)
Thanks for dropping by
Just decided to check out your other blog entries after reading your "happiness is" entry. You look very lovely as a couple :) My husband and I are also in ministry :) Re communication: same thing with us. I have learned to tell my hubby what I need or want. I have also realized that men and women process, think or do things very differently. But thank God for the differences, we learn to love more :)
ReplyDeletewow.... sweet nyo nmn n bless talaga kayu n lord...
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